Peer Group Technology

A grandiose name for a simple but crucial fact "who we spend our time with is who we become."!

My quote of the week this week was from French literary critic Charles Augustin Sainte-Beauve - "Tell me who admires you and loves you, and I will tell you who you are" .

This is so true imagine this - there are eight 16 year olds in a gang and unfortunately those 16 year olds are taking drugs. So the group is joined by a 9th teenager and begins to spend time in that environment, how long is it before that ninth teenager starts to take drugs. You got it, almost instantaneously straight away. This ninth 16 year old hangs around with the eight 16 year old drug takers all of a sudden the ninth 16 year old starts to take drugs. Or there are eight 16 year olds in a gang playing football all the time and a ninth 16 year old begins to watch them play the game. How long is it before the ninth teenager wants to start playing football? Almost straightaway

In other words who we spend our life with is who we will end up being. Let me say that again “who we spend our life with is who we will end up being”. This was told to us many times by our parents “Hang around with the right crowd”, “Why don’t you date this girl she is lovely”, “Don’t date that date this girl”, “Are you sure they’re right for you right now?” ”What kind of people are going to this party?”, we were asked this questions over and over again. Our parents kept saying to us “Hang around with the right people”. You know, even though at the time we were not listening to this wonderful advice we know that if we want to be successful in life now that we are adults we need to hang around with the right people.

When you play tennis with somebody who is a better tennis player than you what happens to your tennis? Of course it improves.

When you play tennis with somebody who is worse than you at tennis what happens? Your tennis gets worse.

In life we need 3 sources of support:

A mentor ~ a wise teacher who delivers the knowledge we need to succeed in life so a traditional mentor would be the Dalai Lama. Somebody who has seen all done it all, a mentor who can just tell us the way the world is.

A coach ~ a tough individual who can question us so when we take decisions we take the decisions that are going to help us to be successful. It is like a mirror that enables us to know what we are doing in our life, let me give you an example, although David Beckham undoubtedly understands how to kick a football he still has a coach questioning him, making sure that he does it better and better each time.

A master mind group ~ a group of people who will support you in your pursuit of excellence. The group should meet regularly and collectively take their lives to a different level. You can have so many different mastermind groups in your life and you probably already do! You draw support from so many different mechanisms - your parents, your brother, your sister, your friends, your teachers. These are people that have uniquely inspired you through your life. Harness this support and use it to good effect, be clear in your own mind where you want to go and listen to the positive feedback from those who know and understand you well.

So remember - in order for you to succeed in achieving your goals, dreams, your aspirations you need support and you need to hang around with successful people!

Have a fantastic day!

Craig
Craig Goldblatt is a successful UK speaker - to discuss how he can help your organisation contact him at craig@craiggoldblatt.com

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